OK, some advice please. Please save your flaming if you disagree. We obviously have a difference of opinion without my being a greedy dot-com.
I've been cohosting for a guy my age (27) for the past 6 mos and we get along great, apache/ssl, ssh, stunnel for email, etc. I've fscked his disks (he hasn't mine because its a RAID array) and we know each other's root passwords. Things are progressing well. We have been having net and now I think it might be time to pull away because, like it or not, I really want him to propose a fiscal arrangement to me and I fear that it won't happen if he continues to get net any time he wants it. There's nothing stopping him from keeping this arrangement indefinitely, right?
My question is: how do I pull back without it backfiring with him thinking that I'm dropping his packets? Ipfw configuration up to this point has been a very nice aspect of our relationship.
I'd appreciate any advice, particularly from other oldfashioned (pre 99) ISPs with similar opinions to mine.