FAQ: How to Successfully List a Missed Connections.
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Question: I saw someone today and I want to post an ad here to see if she noticed me too?
Answer:
First thing you must do is realize and accept that if you didn't have the courage or chance to talk to the other person, you probably blew it this time and might have to wait for fate to take over.
After you accept that, and want to try the one and a million chance that they might be on craigslist.org, you must pay attention and remember important distinguishing details about the other person. For example, don't just remember that they had blond hair and were female. That won't help anyone, and just spark a million inquiries on from the site. What exactly was it about the person that made them unique? Stay away from compliments too -- everyone thinks that they are gorgeous and have an awesome smile. Small details, such as a Skagen watch, or a burberry scarf help immensely. If they were too busy reading a book to notice you, make sure you notice the book that they are reading and include it in your MC post. Be specific about the where and when of the "missed." Great, it was on the red line, but how many people ride the red line every day - be specific, it was on the inbound redline from JFK to Park, around 1 pm -- the conductor joked about the weather on the way into the tunnel.
Make sure you give the other person a reason to write back. Talk a little about your self in the craigslist ad. I'm about your age, as attractive, well educated, etc . . . "You were hot -- write me" will not get her to acknowledge that she knows you are talking about her.
Also, no one likes someone that has to hide behind a site like this -- state the reason you didn't get to talk to them, be cute and mention what you would have said to them in the first place.
"Let's meet for a drink?" Again, are we all a bunch of drunks? Say something different.
Think about what you write before you come to CL. It might make the world of difference in your success.
Some Don'ts:
Don't make a political statement about war.
Don't ask for someone from craigslist that works for a cell phone company to track down their cell phone number.
Don't misspell any words, because every one will very quickly correct you.
Don't refer to public school as the lesser school.
Don't mention naked uncircumcised men that you saw in gym locker rooms.
Don't offer to pay the person if they write you back.
Don't expect the other person, even if they see the ad to respond, because although we all do read these things religiously, we won't be willing to actually admit that by responding to a M.C. ad.
Don't mention the craigslist flagger, because they will delete your ad simply for associating them with your pathetic quest to find a missed connection.
If you have any questions, do not hesitate to contact craig himself. His e-mail can be found in the casual encounters section of the SF site.