This is something of a rant/missed connection/just getting it off my chest post. BE FOREWARNED.
So - met this guy, we clicked, and it was great. All was happy. We went out the next day, he said wonderful things like "It's nice to meet you finally. (i.e., waiting all my life to meet someone like you.)" Great. Loved it. Of course being the sap I am, I bought it hook, line and s(t)inker.
Saw him a couple of days later. Again, sweet, "I can't believe how lucky we are." Yadda yadda. Seemed sincere, looked sincere.... sincerity was OOZING from every pore. Ended the night, and he said "call me tomorrow, okay?"
I called, he was busy. No biggie. Didn't hear from him for another 2 days, but when he DID call, had a FANTASTIC conversation. I mean, the boy did NOT want to hang up. Was like "it's so great to be able to talk about these things with someone who really knows where I'm coming from". (Do you detect a pattern of "lines"? - just checking, read on).
Met up the following day, hung out, watched DVDs, had a great night. Looked me in the eyes and said "You're for real, right? You're not just playing a game?" Of course, being the INCREDIBLY DENSE AND STUPID person I am, told him no, reassured him with kisses. Yes, I wasted kisses - but at the time they seemed like solid investments.
Next day, all was still well, and we had plans to finish up the night together, asked him if he wanted dinner - “Sure”, he said with a smile, “whatever you make will be fine” - and then he dropped off the face of the earth. Seriously. He left, called a few hours later to inform me that he'd be late coming back - to which I replied that if he wanted to hang with his friends, it was OKAY. Without any bitterness, quite happy, because, really, it's OKAY if you wanna hang with your friends, I don't expect someone to be with me 24/7. He then said "No, I want to see you, I miss you", and then NOTHING. Which is surprising, given the formidable amount of lines he had in his arsenal.
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
Next day - nothing
I went from confused, to angry, to worried. I mean, what if he got into an accident and I just didn't know? What if he got hurt? What if he TRIED to get back to me and alien monkeys abducted him to probe him with hot pokers and make him do a banana dance to amuse their queen??? Somewhere in the middle of the "nothings" I sent him an e-mail saying:
1) How are you?
2) I had a great time, thanks
3) Are you okay?
4) Hope to hear from you soon
See??? Reasonable! Nothing about the fact that it's TOTALLY uncool to just drop someone like that when you've MADE PLANS. Not a word of accusation, not a peep about the disappointment of believing these lines, only to find out that they were lines.
8 days later, I got my response - apparently he was okay. Just had some drama to go through, and that he tried to call me, but my number wasn't working. ADDENDUM: I had changed my number, but that was purely coincidental, because I had gotten a new phone and a new contract - BUT THAT WAS 7 DAYS AFTER THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE LOCATED SOMEWHERE BETWEEN MY PLACE AND HIS SWALLOWED HIM UP - and about three days before he sent me the email informing me that he had tried to call. In other words, it took him roughly 8-10 days (depending on when he called) to actually get back to me.
Oh, and that was literally what he said "he had some drama to deal with" - not what kind of drama, not what happened - just that he had drama. I didn't know he was into theater!? And the brevity of his response was especially telling - you go missing for 11 days, I'm thinking that begs for more than 5 lines of text. They weren't even run-on sentences for the love of CORN!
Right. It's a good thing I didn't keep dinner on the stove waiting for him.
In any case, I replied to his email. Now, I know what you're thinking, the bitch nailed him. No, I said no biggie, I hope things are well with you, take care. Not a direct quote, but that's the gist of it. BECAUSE IT'S NOT FOR ME TO BERATE SOMEONE FOR BEING THOUGHTLESS, CARELESS, AND INCONSIDERATE ENOUGH NOT TO TAKE 5 MINUTES OUT OF HIS DAY TO JUST LET ME KNOW WHAT THE F*CK HAPPENED AND WHY HE TOTALLY STOOD ME UP AND DIDN'T EVEN HAVE THE BALLS TO LET ME KNOW THAT HE WASN'T EVER INTERESTED IN SEEING ME AGAIN.