Some pointers ~or~ What I learned setting up my friend via CL
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Hello Men of CL: just a stream-of-consciousness posting that might be of help to you in the future. I recently set up a dear friend of mine via CL and so far she's been on four dates from the list I put together for her. Here's our feedback.
1. If you send a photo, PLEASE look like the photo.
2. My friend and I are Asian. While we have no problem with guys who prefer Asian women - most humans have preferences, and I view a racial preference as similar to my own preference for, say, men of any race with a light sprinkling of chest hair, or nice big masculine hands - we DO have a problem with those whose preference crosses over into the realm of extreme fetish or obsession, to the point where ANY Asian woman will do. One of my friend's dates spent much of the time checking out a petite Asian woman at the next table!!! So rude and disrespectful. My friend felt like a piece of meat.
3. If you can't afford to spring for a drink or a cup of coffee, at least offer to split the bill.
4. READ THE AD. Hate to tell you this, guys, but those of you who answer every single w4m posting by cutting and pasting your same tired old reply over and over? We know who you are. (As a matter of fact...I may just post one of them, just to teach you a lesson! What do you say, ladies? ;-)haha! Anyone get a reply from a Texan with initials KB? I bet it's exactly the same as the one he sent me...three times! And BTW...we Asian women also know the habitual Asian-fetish respondents! But I digress.) Most women looking for men put a lot of effort into their postings - please accord us the courtesy of READING the ad and showing us that you did in your reply. My friend turned down an otherwise fine candidate because he didn't bother to address a top priority interest of hers that I very clearly stated in our ad; by the same token, she is really looking forward to meeting up with the guy who did address it, very intelligently and specifically. My point is: the guys who pay attention get the dates.
5. Try not to launch into a monologue about you-you-you within 5 minutes of meeting. Date #2 did not ask my friend one question about herself. Needless to say (but I'll say it), he is off-off-off the list.
6. If you just want sex sans strings, head on over to the CASUAL ENCOUNTERS section. That's what it's there for. And it DOES work.