Originally Posted: 2005-05-01 11:20pm
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I wonít meet any of your criteria.
I was browsing the M4W ads and all I could think was this: I donít fulfill any of these guysí requirements. Itís not because Iím not attractive, athletic, smart, or successful, I just think my definitions of those broad constructs are inherently different. I canít define myself with adjectives because my stories will reveal my personality in greater detail than a subjective list ever could. I canít tell you how I am, thatís something that you have to figure out on your own. Being attracted to a list of qualities will never replace the experience of interacting with someone, seeing how that person carries themselves, and even hearing what their laugh sounds like.
I could tell you that Iím domestically inclinedóI can knit you a pair of socks and a blanket to keep you warm. I can make you your favorite dinner and can assure you it will be the best youíve ever eaten. I can get a stain out of white linen pants. BUT I will always burn your toast.
I could tell you that Iím athleticóI can run 5 miles without doubling over. I can probably knock you out with one (or a few) of my punches. I can and will complete a 175 mile 2-day bike ride this summer. BUT I will always have my motherís hips, as theyíve been passed down through several generations.
I could tell you that Iím intelligentóI read in my free time. Iíve traveled all over the world. I can articulate my opinions regarding current events. BUT I say ďlikeĒ too much and have been known to say completely unrelated things at inappropriate times.
I could tell you that Iím laid backóI can talk to anyone. I can plan a spontaneous weekend road trip on moments notice. I can get ready in 20 minutes. BUT I also get incredibly stressed out by sudden, unwanted, unwarranted changes.
I could tell you that Iím sweetóDogs and children adore me. I will bring you breakfast in bed. I can make you feel like the sexiest man on Earth and can make you melt with just one hug. BUT I can shoot daggers with my eyes if you cross me and am extremely sarcastic.
I could tell you a million things, but ultimately, itís up to you to judge and decide because I realize itís all relative. One of the most common things said to me by people (and a few bartenders, ironically) is that they canít figure me out. I donít expect you to figure me out, I canít even figure myself out, but I do know this: I donít think Iíll ever fulfill your criteria or fit into your categories because Iím a walking contradiction and will surprise you on more than one occasion.
I am not posting this as a personals ad. I donít want your response and wonít reply even if you do. This is a message to you guys with lots of criteria, there may be a good person where you least expect it, and if you try to classify everyone you meet, chances are youíll miss out on someone great.
As for me, Iím done with trying to find a guy online because I know Iíll never fit within the confines of anyoneís rigid parameters. Perhaps youíll bump into me at a local cafť or watering hole. Iíll be the domestically inclined, athletic, intelligent, laid-back, sweet girl with a healthy, honest laugh. If you donít expect your woman to adhere to an absolute list of standards, I invite you to approach me because nothing beats interacting with someone face to face.