Originally Posted: 2009-05-20 12:18am
The Semantics of Casual - w4m
I don't know what the "casual" in "casual encounters" means. It seems to mean "lets fuck kthanxbai" (perhaps not the OED definition, but still, in spirit) and I currently don't have a use for that. Something dirty and quick seems exciting, sure, but I could get drunk in a bar and snag someone with ease, and then wake up the next morning fuzzy on the details of what happened, who this person is or if I even enjoyed myself, and then count the hours til Target opens so I can buy new sheets and a soda-pretzel combo.
I like casual as in, informal. Relaxed. I don't want to marry you, but I'd like to get to know you. I'd like to like you, as a person. I'd like to be attracted to you without beer goggles, and I'd like you to be attracted to me without them as well. I'd like be comfortable with you, to ease into sex with you, and then make it a regular thing that we both enjoy. I'd like there to be honesty and openness and fun and laughter. Just, you know. Naked, sometimes.
This is sounding a little girl-friend-y. Maybe these are silly things to be looking for, in this section. I'd like to sleep in your bed and warm your sheets, but I won't steal your shirts or leave my toothbrush. I want to kiss you on the mouth, but I don't care if you sleep with other girls or if you leave the toilet seat up. What is that? A friend with benefits? Super low key dating? Consistent naked exercise?
Is that casual, do you think?
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